7 Ways to Avoid Codependency in Your Relationships – Worksheet


What is the theory behind this 7 Ways to Avoid Codependency in Your Relationships – Worksheet?

Codependency or ‘relationship addiction’ is a learned behaviour in which an individual is completely dependent on other relations for their physical, emotional , mental and spiritual needs. It prevents them from forming and maintaining healthy relationships in their lives because most of the time their relations are one-sided and emotionally destructive. 

How will the worksheet help?

The worksheet will provide a list of ways to avoid codependency that individuals with codependent tendencies can use as a guide for themselves. It will help them analyse their current behaviour and prompt them to think about what they can do to unlearn it. 

How to use the worksheet?

Read through the seven ways that can help you avoid becoming codependent in your relationships. Think about how you can start implementing these tips in your life and write down at least one thing you can start doing right now to achieve it. 

7 Ways to Avoid Codependency in Your Relationships – Worksheet

What you can do to avoid becoming codependent.Write one  thing you can start doing today to achieve this.
Make self-care your number 1 priority: Self care behaviours have an immense positive effect on our emotional and physical health. With codependency you sacrifice your own needs to fulfil others needs and end up losing yourself in the process.
Take a step back and let others make their own choices: Control your impulse to be involved in everything and to make attempts to fix others. You don’t have to be involved in every choice they make.Let them be independent. Codependents tend to be a bit controlling but in reality it is not in your hands to change others
Give yourself due credit: You are enough as you are. You don’t need validation and approval from others. Others do not get to determine your self-worth. Only you can do that for yourself. Never think that you need to earn someone’s love. 
Be compassionate with yourself: Resist the urge to be harshly critical of yourself. Extend yourself the same compassion that you show to others when supporting them. Engage in self-soothing behaviours. 



Do not lose your identity in the process:Connect with your values, interests, hobbies, and support system.Do what you used to love. Do not let your relationships define your identity. You are much more than that. You have your own goals and aspirations. Chase them without fear.
Ask for help: Ask for help instead of being the helper all the time. You are just as human as anyone else. Everyone needs a helping hand every now and then.It does not mean you are weak. 
Clearly define your boundaries: Boundaries are a necessity in all healthy relationships. It protects you from being taken advantage of and clearly communicates what you think is OK for you and what isn’t. 

References

Bacon, I., McKay, E., Reynolds, F., & McIntyre, A. (2020). The lived experience of codependency: An interpretative phenomenological analysis. International Journal of Mental Health and Addiction, 18(3), 754-771.

Martin, S. (n.d.) Navigating the Codependency Maze.

You can download this worksheet here.


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