Couples Communication: Reflective Listening Worksheet

Video & audio overview of the worksheet

What is the theory behind the worksheet?

Reflective listening is an exercise to improve communication between two people. A couple requires clear and empathetic communication to support growth and understanding. Practicing reflective listening will improve communication between partners as it helps an individual to focus on what the other person means and not think about what they would like to reply.

This dedicated focus on understanding what your partner is saying and what they wish to communicate builds both appreciation for each other and empathy.

How will the worksheet help?

This worksheet offers steps to guide a couple through a reflective listening conversation. By making regular time (possibly once a week) to use reflective listening intentionally during a conversation will help immediate communication about a situation and develop these listening skills that will become more habitual and will slowly integrate into everyday conversations. 

How to use the worksheet?

Decide on a time and place to have a reflective listening conversation. Having these conversations regularly will help you improve upon these skills. Think about scheduling a weekly time to have a conversation where you intentionally use reflective listening.

Approach this conversation with an open mind and see it as an opportunity to gain a more in-depth understanding of your partner. This decreases defensiveness and increases curiosity and empathy.

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UNSW Sydney. (2023). Reflective Listening.