SECTION A.
Reflection is the examination of one’s own conscious thoughts and feelings.
Couples’ reflection is a skill intended to check in with your partner about what was said and make meaning of it.
What Are The Theories Behind This Worksheet?
Dewey’s Reflective Learning Theory elaborates on reflection as a useful tool for making sense of situations or events that are puzzling or hard to explain.
When couples reflect; they recall a particular event, pose questions as to why things turned out the way they did and provide a possible action.
Schon’s Reflective Learning Theory uncovers hidden knowledge that is a common basis of our unconscious actions. There are two varieties of reflection;
- Reflection-on-action: occurs after an experience.
- Reflection-in-action: occurs during an experience.
How Will This Worksheet Help You?
Couples reflection improves listening skills by showing your partner you are making an active effort to better understand what it is they are expressing or communicating.
This worksheet will help couples improve the quality of their relationship.
How Should You Use This Worksheet?
Couples should use this worksheet to correct weaknesses or errors in their relationship. This worksheet will help couples be more self-aware and take responsibility in the relationship.
This worksheet is a self-evaluation kit to improve how couples reflect on their relationship.
SECTION B.
Couples Reflection Worksheet
- How can you define self-reflection and why is it important to you?
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- What are the best parts of your relationship?
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- What is the best version of yourself in this relationship?
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- What have you learnt about yourself by being in this relationship?
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- What have you learnt about your partner?
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- What changes would you like to see in your partner to foster a better and healthier relationship?
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- How do you show that you value each other in your relationship?
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- How do you show you are mindful of each other?
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- How do you validate each other in your relationship to strengthen your bond?
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- Analyze each other’s strengths and weaknesses
PARTNER A:
| STRENGTHS | WEAKNESSES |
PARTNER B:
| STRENGTHS | WEAKNESSES |
- Discuss ways you can change your weaknesses to improve your relationship.
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- What are you grateful for about your partner today?
This should be done every day before going to bed.
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REFERENCE:
Better Life Therapy. (© 2019). Reflection Exercises for Couples. Available at: https://abetterlifetherapy.com/blog/reflection-exercise-for-couples. [Accessed November 25, 2022]
Reflection Psychology Group. (No Date). The Psychology of Reflection Psychology Group. Available at: https://www.reflectionpsychology.com.au/our-practice/the-psychology-of-reflection. [Accessed November 25, 2022]
What is Reflective Learning? (© 2003-2022). Available at: https://study.com/learn/lesson/reflective-learning-style-theory.html. [Accessed November 25, 2022]
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