Death of a Partner Worksheet

Video & audio overview of the worksheet

What is the theory behind the worksheet?

The grieving process after losing a partner has no strict time frame or process that it should follow. This experience is very personal and may look different between people. Sometimes some things have been left unsaid or things you may wish to say – even if it is that you miss them. 

Finding a way to express these thoughts and feelings in a tangible manner, such as writing them in a letter, validates your experience and may bring some comfort. It is important to note that if you are struggling through this process it is helpful to reach out to a mental health practitioner to support you.

How will the worksheet help?

This worksheet offers you the opportunity to express yourself in a manner that is safe and free from judgment. Sometimes a grieving partner may feel that they need to put on a brave face to be strong for children or other family members and therefore do not often have the opportunity to sit and be honest with the vulnerability of their feelings. 

This worksheet offers you one manner in which to honor and express your experience of grief.

How to use the worksheet?

Find time and space where you will not be disturbed and think about what you would say to your partner. Start writing it down – you do not need to worry about spelling or grammar – this is a letter from the heart. Without judging yourself, write out everything you need to say.

You can choose what you do with the letter/s. Some people like to keep them to reread and remind them of their partner. Some like to burn the letters to release their feelings and thoughts as a form of closure. Some people like the idea of tearing up the letter and adding the paper to a pot of soil that they plant a flower in to represent future growth.

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National Institute of Aging. (2020). Mourning the Death of a Spouse.