Gottman Conflict Resolution Worksheet

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Conflict is a natural part of any relationship, but how we handle it can make all the difference. The Gottman Conflict Resolution Worksheet is designed to help you navigate conflicts with your partner healthily and constructively. Developed based on research by renowned relationship experts Dr. John and Dr. Julie Gottman, this worksheet offers practical guidance to improve your conflict resolution skills and strengthen your relationship.

What Are The Theories Behind This Worksheet?

  1. The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse: Recognizing and addressing destructive communication patterns, such as criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling, is essential for effective conflict resolution.
  2. The Sound Relationship House Theory emphasizes building a strong foundation for your relationship by fostering trust, intimacy, and shared meaning. It provides a framework for understanding what makes relationships successful.
  3. Emotional Intelligence: The ability to understand and manage your emotions and empathize with your partner’s feelings is crucial for resolving conflicts positively.

How Will This Worksheet Help You?

By identifying and addressing unhealthy communication patterns, you can enhance your ability to express your needs and feelings effectively. This worksheet encourages you to connect more deeply with your partner, building a more solid and lasting bond.

How Should You Use This Worksheet?

Choose a comfortable and quiet place where you and your partner can sit down and focus on the worksheet without distractions. Take turns reading each prompt and discussing your responses openly and honestly. Be sure to actively listen to your partner’s perspective and feelings without judgment. Based on your discussion, set realistic goals for how you both can improve your conflict resolution skills and strengthen your relationship.

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