What is the theory behind this Infidelity worksheet?
Infidelity has come a long way from traditionally being defined as just secretive physical relations outside a committed relationship. It has now expanded to include emotional relationships and web-based friendships as well. However, the common theme uniting these behaviors is essentially a breach of trust and a broken commitment between two individuals.
If partners choose to make their relationship work, the road to recovery is very challenging; they must go through several phases of acceptance and emotional processing to the point where moving on is possible.
How will the worksheet help?
The worksheet will help the therapist gain an insight into the injured partner’s readiness to forgive and move on after the couple’s therapy has progressed through the initial stages. It will help explore where they currently stand in the therapy process.
How to use the worksheet?
The partner whose trust has been broken is required to answer relfective questions as directed. This worksheet can be done during the therapy session or can be given to the client as a homework assignment.
- Reflect on these questions and choose your response.
|Has your partner been fully transparent with you about the affair?|
|Do you think they can change?|
|Do you think they are regretful of their actions?|
|Would you regret it if you do not forgive them?|
|Are they willing to gain your trust again?|
|Are they making an equal effort in the recovery process?|
|Have you come to understand why they did what they did?|
|Are you hopeful they can make this relationship work?|
Staples, J. M. (2012). Couples’ Process of Healing from Infidelity While in Therapy. UNLV Theses, Dissertations, Professional Papers, and Capstones. 1779.
You can download this worksheet here.