What is the theory behind this Interpersonal Effectiveness Worksheet?
This worksheet is based on Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) which is a combination of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Zen Buddhism. It helps clients cope with their issues by learning key skills through four modules: mindfulness, emotion regulation, effective communication and distress tolerance.
Interpersonal effectiveness is one of the modules that deals with effective communication and is ‘designed to help you get what you need from your relationships while being respectful to yourself and others.’
How will the worksheet help?
The worksheet will help clients practice one aspect of interpersonal effectiveness i.e. Objective effectiveness which is focused on how to communicate with others in a way that gets you what you want. The worksheet can also help them identify which parts they need to improve. Those areas can then be addressed in therapy.
How to use the worksheet?
This worksheet is to be used as practice after the purpose, usage and practical application of ‘DEAR MAN’ has been clearly discussed in session. It can be used for clients who need communication training to resolve interpersonal issues that could be contributing to their poor mental health.
Interpersonal effectiveness worksheet
‘DEAR MAN’ is a technique designed to help you get your point across in a conversation in a way that does not leave a negative impact on your relationship with the listener. Recall what you have learned in therapy and write responses corresponding to either a real or imagined scenario.
- Which part is the hardest for me? What can I do to be better at it?
DBT Self Help (n.d.) Interpersonal Effectiveness. Retrieved October 23, 2022 from https://dbtselfhelp.com/dbt-skills-list/interpersonal-effectiveness/
Linehan, M.M. (2015) DBT Skills Training Manual (2nd edition). The Guilford Press.
You can download this worksheet here.