Characteristics of a healthy relationship worksheet

What is the theory behind this Characteristics of a healthy relationship worksheet?

Research on interpersonal relationships has established strong links between a healthy relationship and its positive effects on one’s physical health and subjective wellbeing. On the contrary, unhealthy relationships are found to be associated with low self-esteem, depression, anxiety, and even substance abuse. 

How will the worksheet help?

The worksheet will educate individuals in couples therapy about the characteristics of a healthy relationship that they can use to assess their own relationship. It will also highlight any difference or similarity in their individual perspectives.  

It is important for couples to evaluate the quality of their relationship so that problem areas can be addressed in the therapeutic process.  

How to use the worksheet?

Read through the given characteristics and answer the questions that follow. This worksheet is divided into two parts. Part A includes a list of characteristics of a healthy relationship along with their description. Part B consists of some reflective questions based on the characteristics listed in Part A.

Characteristics of a healthy relationship worksheet

A healthy relationship can have the following characteristics.

Adapted from J. G. Woititz, Adult Children of Alcoholics

Mutual RespectGiving value to the other persons opinions without being judgmental
CompassionShowing genuine concern for the other persons worries and problems
EmpathyBeing open to their feelings and opinions
UnderstandingTrying to understand their actions and responses
AcceptanceAccepting them just the way they are
HonestyBeing truthful and open with each other, admitting mistakes
VulnerabilityAllowing them to show you their most vulnerable self without feeling judged or receiving negative reactions.
Shared responsibilityMaking mutually beneficial decisions together and doing their fair share of work 
TrustTrusting the other with both the good and the bad
Good communicationConversing in an understanding way and providing a safe space for the other to share and talk.
ConsiderationBeing mindful of your own and the other’s persons needs. 
Personal IntegrityMaintaining your beliefs and sense of self while honoring the relationship
CompatibilityMutual EnjoymentAgree and adapt to each other’s lifestyles, life goals and personalities. Find ways to enjoy together despite differences
  • Name a few healthy characteristics in your relationship?


  • Which of these is the weakest characteristic in your relationship?


  • Which characteristic do you need to work on?



  • Which characteristic does your partner need to work on?



Diener, E., & Seligman, M. E. P. (2002). Very happy people. Psychological Science, 13(1), 81-84. 

Gable, S. L., & Bromberg, C. (2018). Healthy social bonds: A necessary condition for well-being. In E. Diener, S. Oishi, & L. Tay (Eds.), Handbook of well-being. Salt Lake City, UT: DEF Publishers. 

Woititzm J. G. (1990). Adult Children of Alcoholics. Health Communications Inc.

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