DEAR MAN Interpersonal Effectiveness Worksheet
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DEAR MAN is a skill intended to help individuals develop effective interpersonal communication that will help get their needs met and develop healthy relationships with others.
DEAR MAN is an acronym with each letter representing its own skills. It stands for Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce, Mindful, Appear, and Negotiate.
Interpersonal effectiveness is the ability to interact with others and it includes skills to;
- Attend to relationships
- Balance priorities versus demands
- Balance the “wants” and the “shoulds”
- Build a sense of mastery and self-respect
What Are The Theories Behind This Worksheet?
Dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT) is a type of talking therapy specifically adapted to treat individuals who suffer from extremely intense emotions.
DBT treatment is based on cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and is used to help struggling individuals identify and positively change negative thinking patterns.
DBT focuses on providing therapeutic skills in mindfulness, distress tolerance, emotion regulation, interpersonal effectiveness, and The Middle Path.
DEAR MAN is a sub-skill of interpersonal effectiveness that is used to resolve a conflict or make a request in a respectful and effective way that maintains a relationship.
How Will This Worksheet Help You?
This worksheet will provide skills for making hard conversations become easier over time.
This worksheet will also help individuals get what they need from their relationships while respecting themselves and others.
How Should You Use This Worksheet?
This worksheet should teach individuals how to develop effective interpersonal communication.
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References
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DBT Tools. (© 2022). DEAR MAN Skill. Available at: https://dbt.tools/interpersonal_effectiveness/dear-man.php. [Accessed December 07, 2022]
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Positive Psychology. (© 2022). Interpersonal Effectiveness: 9 Worksheet & Examples. Available at: https://positivepsychology.com/interpersonal-effectiveness/. [Accessed December 14, 2022]
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Sunrise Residential Treatment Program. (© 2022). DEAR MAN DBT SKILL: The Most Effective Way to Make A Request. Available at: https://sunrisertc.com/dear-man/. [Accessed December 07, 2022]
